You’re supposed to be impressed with people not stuff. That’s true whether you’re at a fancy country club event or if you’re running to the corner store real quick. Everyone should at least get a default smile because you don’t necessarily know who’s who.
There is a long history of interest divergence as a function of racism. That’s when people choose to align with social power (re: whiteness) over their class peers. This actively helps maintain racist systems. It’s important to also resist trying to only relate to one’s class peers (or better). Making sure someone is below you is fear. It reflects uncertainty about your own place in the world.
We are more like the people we run into throughout the day than we think. Disrupting power imbalances begins with recognizing everyone’s humanness. Imperfect. Instinctual. Always subject to change.