This is a book about the science of sex. Emily Nagoski purposefully focuses on pleasure to challenge traditional views around what sex means or is meant for. Culture, trauma, lifestyle, money, work, kids–all of these things effect people’s ability to have fun sex. So she shows why it’s important to change those contexts if you want to perform differently. Deconstruct cultural expectations and assumptions, give yourself a chance to heal from your trauma, take conscious breaks with your partner from distracting responsibilities. Basically, it’s like chill out and pay attention to your body.